What comes after you stop chasing?
Over the past few days, I've been writing about mimetic desire — the way we absorb what to want from others, often without realising it. If you've been…
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Clear filter ×The envy map
Envy is uncomfortable. Most of us try to push it away, deny it, or rationalise it into something more acceptable. But envy is also information. Specifically,…
Why achieving your goals won't always make you happy
You've probably had this experience: You worked hard for something. A promotion, a milestone, a purchase, a relationship status. You achieved it. And then...…
How to spot a borrowed desire
Not all of your desires are borrowed. Some are genuinely yours — things you'd want regardless of what anyone else was doing. The trick is telling them apart.…
Why scrolling makes you miserable (and it's not what you think)
You already know social media can make you feel bad. That's not news. But the usual explanations — it's addictive, it's a time sink, the content is toxic —…
The uncomfortable truth about what you want
You're chasing something right now that you don't actually want. I don't know what it is. The promotion. The lifestyle. The relationship status. The home in…
The shower test
Your best ideas don't come from scrolling through feeds or sitting in meetings. They emerge in the shower, on walks, during that quiet moment before sleep.…